By Mia Adler Ozair
The phrase positive feedback loop is actually a scientific term that I am overlapping with human psychology and the impact the concept can have on your everyday life. Although it is a scientific term, it’s not rocket science— in fact, it’s actually pretty simple. When you experience positive feedback from any source, human nature dictates that the positive feedback will encourage the behavior that caused that response.
Here are five different ways to apply the positive feedback loop to take your life to a new level.
- Marriage and relationships. When your partner does something that you like, let it be known! Say “thank you,” and verbalize how much that action or comment was appreciated. Validate, validate, validate! Even the smallest thing, from changing the toilet paper roll to filling the gas tank, should be noticed and encouraged in a positive way.
- Parenting. Catch your kids being good. Use love, hugs, and rewards for great behavior and for behavior that has been corrected. Kids especially need tons of feedback; and the more positive your feedback, the more positive energy will flow around the house.
- Sex. If it feels good, looks good, and is working, then by all means express it! Use of the positive feedback loop in bed is an excellent and easy way to ramp up your sex life, create new levels of experience, and increase intimacy. There are so many ways to show that things are working—be creative!
- At work. If you are an employee, let your boss know when he or she has done a great job at mentoring you or communicating with you, and share how much you appreciate it. If you are the boss, it is essential that you provide positive feedback to help your employees reach their greatest potential. Positive feedback in the workplace increases productivity and makes the environment a more enjoyable place to be.
- Your body and your mind. Almost everyone has something about their body or themselves they wish to change or improve upon, and everyone also knows just how much work must be done to improve a mood or get in shape. You, and your body, need positive feedback, as well! Ask a good friend to tell you when she notices changes in your body as a result of your new exercise routine or even changes in your attitude. Even better, in a kind and loving way, create your own positive feedback loop by just saying something nice to yourself while looking in the mirror. With effort and knowledge, positive results will come!
Every human being on this planet needs “the two V’s”—to be valued and validated. By applying the positive feedback loop in your life, you can experience miraculous and meaningful change!
Mia Adler Ozair is a clinically licensed psychotherapist with a private practice in Los Angeles, California. In addition to her 10-plus years of experience as a therapist, she has more than 20 years of expertise in the worlds of education, nonprofit organizations, and public speaking. She is a professional writer who recently released Insider’s Secrets: How to Choose an Exceptional Therapist (& How to Avoid the Bad Ones). For more information visit miaadlerozair.com.